Meta-communication as characterizing exemplary dialogue?

Second-order Dialogue and Higher Order Discourse for the Future (Part #11)

Much-valued attempts have been made to elicit insights from dialogues or trialogues between those esteemed for their insight. It is useful to ask whether such instances are an indication of the highest forms of discourse which humanity can envisage and to which it could aspire. As noted separately (Challenging impoverishment of conventional discourse, 2016), it is appropriate to recognize the appreciation associated with particular dialogues between two or three individuals, suggesting that their quality should be considered exemplary, even when hypothetical:

Kenneth N. Cissna and Rob Anderson. Buber, Rogers, and the Potential for Public Dialogue (2012)
J. Krishnamurti and David Bohm: The Future of Humanity: a dialog between Krishnamurti and Bohm (1990)
Don Howard: Revisiting the Einstein-Bohr Dialogue (Science 2.0, 2009)
Jung-Pauli dialogue: S. Gieser, Depth Psychology and Quantum Physics: Wolfgang Pauli's dialogue with C.G. Jung (2005)
Sitansu Ray: The Tagore-Einstein Conversations: reality and the human world, causality and chance (1995)
Ralph Abraham, Terence McKenna and Ruper Sheldrake: Trialogues at the Edge of the West: chaos, creativity, and the resacralization of the world (1992)
Daniel Fidel Ferrer: Trialogue between Heidegger, Nietzsche, and Nagarjuna in Todtnauberg (2011)
Leonard Swidler, Khalid Duran and Reuven Firestone: Trialogue: Jews, Christians, and Muslims in Dialogue (2007)

Noteworthy is that those cited above do not include dialogues renowned in other cultures and include only a few that could be understood as "between cultures". It is unclear to what extent such dialogues inspire replication or are subject to appreciative critiques leading to the improvement of their methodology.

More complex examples have been envisaged. including thought experiments:

Timothy Williamson: Tetralogue: I'm Right, You're Wrong (2015)
Petr Nawka and Charlene M. Reiss: Integrating people who are stigmatized: the tetralogue model (World Psychiatry, 2002)
Examples of Tetralogue Poetry
Andrew M. Colman, Susan Blackmore, Robert L. Morris, Richard Wiseman, and Christopher C. French: Is the spirit willing? A pentalogue on parapsychology (The Psychologist, Ausut 1996)
Best Pentalogue Poems
Kostis Palamas and His Dodecalogue of the Gypsy (1955)
Ioannis Raptis: A Dodecalogue of Basic Didactics from Applications of Abstract Differential Geometry to Quantum Gravity (International Journal of Theoretical Physics, 2007)

Especially relevant to this argument is the quality of various forms of inter-sectoral dialogue, notably that between "belief systems" and worldviews, however these are understood. Obvious examples include interfaith dialogues, interdisciplinary dialogues and intercultural dialogues.

Little effort is however made to assess such gatherings in terms of the degrees of synthesis which it might be assumed that they are intended to elicit (Evaluating Synthesis Initiatives and their Sustaining Dialogues: possible questions as a guide to criteria of evaluation of any synthesis initiative, 2000; Deconstructing conference communication processes to elicit meta-discourse, 2013). Why do such events not achieve renown as "magical" beyond conventional meeting norms? Expressed otherwise, can interfaith, transdisciplionary, and interethnic dialogues succeed without the connectivity experienced and described as "magic"?

Little is said of the efficacy of such processes, thereby cultivation the assumption that they are "fit for purpose" or "as good as it gets" -- especially in evoking "feel good" outcomes. The fact that reports do not suggest that the quality of dialogue on such occasions is especially noteworthy indicates that its inadequacy is not perceived as a challenge. There would appear to be little articulated aspiration to a higher order of discourse -- rather than complicity in achieving minimal "feel good" adequacy.

It is somewhat extraordinary to note the various domains in which exemplary performance is presented, recognized and awarded as an inspiration to those who might choose to emulate it. Such evaluation is evident in the star system for hotels and restaurants, or the ranking of universities and corporations. This is rarely evident in the case of discourse, except in particular debate settings. Individual orators may well be admired but the dynamic of a dialogue -- in contrast with ball games. What insights regarding the quality of discourse are evoked by debates between presidential candidates?

It is therefore intriguing to note references to "extraordinary dialogue", although with little sense of what justifies that qualification or its memorability, and how the term may be simply a misnomer without significance:

Sheldon Krause: Extraordinary dialogue happening in extraordinary times (Michigan State University, 8 March 2021)
Marcella Kraybill-Greggo: An Extraordinary Dialogue: Mr. Gurdjieff Meet Mr. Teilhard! (Claymont Wisdom School, 18 December 2019)
Richard C. Dujardin: Year of Scandal prompts and extraordinary dialogue on sin, morality in America (The Buffalor News, 2 January 1999)
An Extraordinary International Dialogue With Lyndon LaRouche (Executive Intelligence Review, 10 September 2010)
Extraordinary Dialogue on Urban Crisis Response and Recovery (World Urban Forum, 11th Session, 2022)
Wholly Shift: Moving from Dangerous Discourse to Extraordinary Dialogue (Bailey Strategic Innovation Group, 2019)
[An extraordinary dialogue between the poets Sylvia Plath and Ted Hughes] (Thesis, University of Tasmania, 2002)

A rich exchange between conflicting perspectives may be noted anecdotally in legislative assemblies. However there is little capacity to identify what makes for extraordinary discourse -- and how admirable qualities may be variously undermined. There is no "star system" to distinguish qualities of discourse, nor are the institutional environments in which dialogues occur ranked in any way.

Necessarily especially provocative is the quality of dialogue associated with potential or latent conflict. What form might an exemplary dialogue between Russia and the Ukraine take, even if hypothetical? Or between Israel and Palestine?